Miffie, 59

I am generally intersted in astrology but have lately found cause to look a little deeper into the science. I am particularly keen to find out if we, as beings with a soul, can overcome any negative aspects in our natal and combined relationship charts by adopting a more spiritual approach to life. I ask, is it the positions and aspects in our charts that determine that "soul mate" or "karmic purpose" feeling or is it that we are actually spiritual beings who have made a pact in heaven to challenge each other in this life? Very deep questions I know, but that is where I find myself at the moment....